Bringing up children in London

I posted this under "Mental Health", but I'll post it again here, in case it stimulates debate. I'm not a parent myself, but work with children.

When it comes to mental (and physical) health, prevention is better than cure. I work for a mental health charity based in a primary school, but we need focus our attention even further back than this.
There is a HUGE amount of scientific evidence for the importance of the first 1000 days of life, starting from conception. A good experience during this vital period allows an infant to develop emotional and physical resilience that will help him/her cope with any number of difficulties in later life. It is basically a sound investment to devote attention and resources to this period: failure to do so sets up a vicious circle, because people whose own early infancy was deficient will struggle to parent their own children adequately. The following book should be essential reading for policy makers:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Why-Love-Matters-affection-shapes/dp/0415870534
Caring, whether for babies/children or the elderly/infirm, is accorded very low status in our society, although it is the most important thing we do. That needs to change. Scandi-style maternity/paternity leave anyone? Paying other people to care for our nearest and dearest may keep the economy healthy, but at a huge cost to human health and well-being. I'm not advocating women retreat to the home, but we need to sort out work/life balance for both genders and, with technology reshaping the world of work, maybe now's the time.

Apart from what many have mentioned i find that London is failing big time in allowing children in their boroughs to do anything such as sport. Each borough should be implementing sports facilities for the kids to get involved in instead of hanging around doing nothing or other things, including crime , drugs etc. Simple tennis, padel, five a side, basketball areas etc in parks or other areas could be setup to encourage this as i find unless they have money then thats the only way they can enjoy it and lets remember we have many poor families in London that just cant afford this and why should those children miss out. It will also encourage them to focus on something that they actually might be good at and discipline them to continue onto other things and stay out of trouble. Give the children something to do and start them working together from an early age in their communities , respecting each other , focusing on the positive and enjoying something they might like in sport. Boredom by many youngsters in London is one of the biggest problems in my opinion which leads onto the bad things as the government has stopped them doing anything so they are finding other things obviously. Many countries in Europe do this and Spain is one that many years ago backed by the government has done this and its increased health, brought communities together , disciplined and inspired those to go on further in sport but also reduced crime, loitering teenagers causing problems etc ....so in the long run its a positive thing!

It was great some time ago but now there are too many people, too many children, comparing to facilities like schools, NHS services, parks. Too many people come, too little investment is happening. Other countries are changing dramatically (for good) and we are way behind.

Care must be taken to consider the impact (environmental, medicinal, housing, etc) of over-population.
Equally, consideration in Planning must be used to prevent multinational big companies or individuals using planning laws to their advantage (preventing locals from adequate housing options). Alongside, scrutiny should be exercised preventing individuals or companies using 'aliases' to buy properties and then forcing through planning to suit their needs.

Family & Property planning need to be considered VERY carefully: families want larger and larger properties, London is limited, or else it will get choked through corporate high rises and "socially cleansed" areas and more deprived, over-populated areas, creating a disparity.

It is not acceptable to have the "urban sprawl" destroy valuable green land areas, nor by corporate over-development. Planning Laws MUST change to reflect the explosion in population as well as the "over" representation of business.

I was thinking earlier today,
that despite all the talk from politicians about how they are on the side of the so called "jams" nothing much has changed since I was a kid in the 1970s.
I can still recall how my parents struggled to put food on the table and into their children's tummies.
It is the 21st century and people ( with jobs) are having to use food banks because after they have paid bills, they are lucky to be able to afford to buy a bag of chips for their kids let alone themselves.
It's hard to believe and yet it is true.
Whoever said that politicians only go into politics to better themselves was right!
As for the so called Prime Minister baring her soul last week and telling the media that she cried after she heard the election results...well I don't have any sympathy for her.
What she should be crying over is the failure of governments to address the long standing problem of the low wage economy
which more often than not affects the working classes despite the fact that they faithfully support the sham called democracy every five years.
Save your fake and selfish tears prime minister,
give the working classes a decent wage not tears.

Children's rights and needs are left out of so many transport, traffic, planning and economic decisions. For example, the Oxford, Regent and Bond Street Business Improvement District made many changes to Oxford Street, but refused point blank to consider the impact on affected residents' safe routes to schools and local services. The same is happening with the proposals to pedestrianise Oxford Street. The traffic will be rerouted through residential areas with complete disregard for the impact on children's health. Because the Mayor's Ultra Low Emissions Zone plans are so weak, TfL and the GLA will be lifting restrictions on all-night deliveries etc. This means local children will not only have late evening deliveries under their windows night after night as they do now, but also through the rest of the night. Children are very vulnerable to noise pollution and sleep disturbance, more so than adults. Everyone living in the deliveries areas will have their health affected by the all-night noise pollution. But the GLA, the Mayor, TfL, they do not care at all about this. The Mayor is unable or unwilling to stand up to the powerful road freight lobby on this issue. The air pollution in those areas will increase dramatically. Also, the areas the traffic will be rerouted through are routes used by residents on both sides of Oxford Street to walk to local schools and other essential community facilities. Currently there are far, far too few traffic lights on junctions in the areas north of Oxford Street, and walking your kids to school is a nightmare experience. There is no indication in the pedestrianisation proposals that residents' needs for safe walking routes have been considered at all. There is no mention of adding new traffic lights or of adding-in full pedestrian phases for traffic lights in those areas. People, and their children, need to get around those areas on foot. Or do they want more people to get into cars and drive around?

London is far too full and i read the mayor wants more immigration ,which is utterly ridiculous .schools are full.no housing.nhs cant cope ,two weeks for doctors appointment.roads are chaos .air pollution is awful ,indigenous londoners are all but gone .london has suffered badly from unchecked immigration .whats the point people coming here nothing for them

London is a good place for children to grow up: look at the world, what a mess. And here we take care of everyone, we love and hate each other, we breathe in the fumes from empty buses, and the unregulated numbers of black diesel cabs and construction vehicles, white vans and couriers ...and blame the pollution and congestion on the common motorist, but hey! I am pro London, we should be our own independent Republic. We have a MORE ADVANCED evolutionary sense of togetherness than the rest of the Kingdom outside of London. Not that we don't welcome people from outside who want to come here. WE DO! The main challenges when bringing up kids here are the same anywhere. Luckily, mostly, HERE we are more tolerant and intelligent than the rest of the Kingdom (who voted Conservative). The main challenges are to explain why there are so many exorbitant and gratuitously expensive office blocks being designed and built in the City, closing down public roads, strangulating the access and wayfaring of the Little People.

bring up children is hard enough, but schools are too full, there is no hope of many children getting accommodation in London of any sort. Everything costs too much. We do have some of the best parks in the country however, how many times can you take a child to a park for the day. Also teenagers have very little to do as again it costs too much. Even to travel on the underground for teenagers costs a lot of money. It use to cost me £180 a month to send my children to secondary School as it was out of our borough.

The cost of bringing up children and in particular childcare and after school activities are far too high and stops some families from participating in leisure activities as they have to work long hours to afford to live and pay bills. Parents should be able to spend quality time with their children and attend school activities without the worry of jeopardising their jobs. This means that a more agile and flexible approach to working should be embraced by both small and larger organisations. I do not agree with mothers being forced to work so they can pay high costs for someone else to take care of their children it is a nonsense.